We all like to think that we are in control of our ego all the time. I know I definitely did.
But there are little times when we find out self consumed with a wealth of emotion and that’s when the ego takes control. Let me tell you my biggest example I’ve gone through (hopefully you can relate)
Seeing a guy for a little bit then out of the blue you get that line ‘ I’m sorry I just don’t think I can give you what you want’ immediately your heat sinks and you spiral into what, why and how? Then the second stage kicks in, your friends tell you, he doesn’t know what he’s lost, you were better than him anyway and the list goes on.
This however is the wrong way to look at it, yes it hurts like a b*tch. But you have to calm your ego and look at the other perspective:
• Yes, now you will undoubtedly go through a stage where you feel like your not good enough for anyone, you bring all your perceived flaws to the interrogation table for questioning and the ego is trying to fight through to tell you, your bad b*itch.
• Atleast he didn’t keep it going when he wasn’t happy. Now I know if someone said this to me they would probably get the best evil eyes they have ever seen, but in my case, I struggle to end things with people, I become really indecisive and if they didn’t end it we could just end up in an endless cycle of misery!
• Now you have options, you can choose to re-enact several scenes from Bridget jones (I have done this more times then I care to admit) or you can see it as a chance to move on, change direction, re-invented yourself.
What I’m trying to say very poorly is fighting with your ego isn’t a bad thing, you just have to make sure occasionally you win! Sometimes we need the ego to make us feel great about ourselves and sometimes we need it to step back so we can see the situation for what it is.